Let's Play House pt. 2

Updated: Jun 21, 2021




It is not always easy to deny your flesh of what you want. We all know it. I know all too well. We want what we want when we want it. Waiting to move in with each other until we marry can be torture sometimes, especially when we love someone. You long to be with them every day without having to leave them. When you have kids together, you want to have a family dynamic.


But isn’t this why the bible says it is better to marry than to burn? What Paul is talking about in this scripture is not burning in hell but burning with passion. For this paragraph I want to talk to women alone. Something came to mind when I was talking to someone. That is: men who really wants to add value to your life is not going to make you a mother and cause you to be outside of the will of God by living with you, and be intimate with you, before he makes you his wife. If he wants to be with you and not burn with passion and wake up to you every day, he will follow the order of God and marry you. Don’t be fooled by how culture says you can do it, don’t be fooled by Satan, don’t be fooled by your flesh.


This is not to say that mistakes don’t happen. It’s not to say that we don’t get weak and make decisions out of our flesh, it happens. But as long as you are still breathing, you can still change the path you’re walking and line back up with the will of God.


Living together before marriage will not help someone make up their mind about wanting to marry you. People who get married do it because they want to do it. So, if they have not made up in their mind that they want have a covenant relationship with you, you will be giving them everything THEY want without the blessing and promise of God on that relationship.


Lastly, if you have children, you have to think about them. Think about how this will affect them. Think about the example you have been in front of them and all they have seen. Our children watch us. They watch what we do, how we respond and they will repeat what we do. Think about the example you want them follow. If you are a Christian parent who try your best to live for God whole heartedly, you probably want your children to walk the path of righteousness and right standing. But that’s the life we have to live in front of them. You probably don’t want your daughter living with a man before marriage and getting pregnant and possibly living with the title of ‘babymama’, or just ‘mother of my children.’ So, we have to show them the life that should be lived. Even if you’ve experienced this, you can change the way your children see righteousness by changing the example you have modeled in front of them. What legacy do you want to leave behind for you children? Is it the legacy of baby mamas and baby daddies? Is it a legacy of continued spiritual perversion? Is it a legacy of “shacking”? Think about this.


I can talk about this because I have experienced all parts of this. I have had to look at my life and the legacy I was leaving behind and decide to change. I have to think about my children before I get into relationship with anyone. And I have to think about how this person is going to affect my walk with God. I have decided that if he is not able to uphold the standard of God’s word and marry me before cohabitating with me or getting me pregnant, if he can’t protect my purity, then he is not serious about me or God. We are not right for one another. So, before you make the decision to live together, think about this. If you are already here, let me tell you that you are not less than. You are still worth everything to God. But make the decision to please God and change how you have been doing things.

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